Anxious and concerned about your approach in your relationship? Thinking about the tactics, you should use to turn your boyfriend to your other half.
Since we’re all busy, and yes, it can be tough to find time to correctly show your man how much you love the things he does for you. However, the good news is you can do this in a tremendously powerful and quick way. You can ‘text’ him!
Everybody is texting and apparently, texting is here to stay. Therefore, you should be acutely aware of the science of good texting to flirt, have fun or to improve your relationship base. In addition, so many women are worried about their relationships, and the reason is not having adequate communication with their partner.
Mentioned below are some enthralling texting secrets that will reignite the spark with your man, these messages will help revive the situation?
Remove the question marks
‘‘There is a party tonight at John’s house, do you want to come tonight and join us?’’
This kind of text messages makes your impression as uncertain, hesitant, nervous and many times confused. In addition, no one likes to date a panicky and indecisive girl.
Putting question marks means you are giving them something to reject.
So, eliminate your question marks. And if you want someone to go out with you, text him this, “There will be a party tonight at John’s house, you should come!” or “I’ll be waiting for you in the party at John’s house!”. Another message could be “John has arranged a party tonight at his place, we’ll meet up there.”
The certainty while using the right way will communicate a deeper level of confidence that you want him to see in you.
Use visual language
Men are visual creatures and can’t resist visual language. They like getting messages that are more descriptive and can evoke feeling. For example, if you want to motivate him, instead of sending him plane text messages, send him any pictures having an inspirational quote. Alternatively, send him your video motivating him. Seeing your face with a smile and listening to your voice motivating him will not only boost him up but it will also make him feel more connected and coupled.
Be a bit mysterious
This seems a bit crazy but always don’t tell everything about you. Let him ask. And even if you are saying something about you, make sure you left something important for him to ask. Let him ask!
For example, if you’re telling him about your taste in music, only say to him about the genre you like or the artists you love to listen. Let him ask about the songs of that genre or the most popular or beautifully composed songs of that singer.
Act parental (sometimes)
Yes, no one likes to have a companion who is always giving orders or making you do something even for your self-being. But every man loves the one who gives them attention and shows that they care for him. So, acting like a parent with your companion and texting him about his gym workouts, office routines, food on right times of the day and even his attire can bring you much closer to his heart.
Men don’t like serious, hard-hearted and stern girls. Sharing humor can diffuse any adverse situation. Memes is an excellent and civilized way to be funny with your mate.
Moreover, you can do that by using funny emojis. Emojis can be used to add an extra spark to the story of your message. Funky and jazzy emojis can also be used to determine the tone of your message. However, you should use them sparingly.
Talk about the things that are mutual
Talking about something that is common, similar or mutual will make your conversation more shared and common. The other person will feel more related as he will also have an idea about what you are talking about. Talking about mutual things whether it is about likes or dislikes of you and your partner would result in long and lengthy conversations.
‘‘Fake it until you make it’’ might not work for anybody in this regard. If you want to pursue a long relationship, even in texting you should be genuine, honest and frank about your own self. Because when you say any lie about you for lifting your perception in his eyes, you would have to build upon it with further lies, but then there comes a day when you are out of words for more fabrications and falsehoods. And test it, sincerity in any type of communication including texting with your partner is one of the significant things men can’t resist and ignore.
Re-read your text messages
Before clicking on the send button, don’t ever forget to re-read your important message. Some texts can have a great influence on the longevity and future status of your relationship. Always re-check the spelling, clarity, and context of your message.
Decency is the new cool
When everybody is trying to be cool, dissimilar and different, decency becomes the new cool thing. And many men subconsciously aspire to have decent and modest soul mates.
Leave him wanting more
Don’t open your mind book yourself, let him explore. Send text messages that make him more inquisitive and keen. You may start the conversation but don’t overdo it. Leave him wanting more!
If you are at the starting point of your love story, don’t ever send him pointless and senseless messages. It will make your conversation boring and dull resulting in an early end to the conversation. So, excite him with stimulating messages depending upon your situation.
Stay positive and optimistic during texting, even when you are talking about something bad in your life. Positive people have their own unique charm and attraction. All human beings tend to be more interactive with positive and constructive people. And it’s natural because you share your problems and sorrows with someone who can give you a suitable solution and upright advice.
So, make your conversation of messages that express good thoughts and feelings.
Recognition reminder can be a vital thing for a boost up in your relationship. During his hectic routines at office or university, make him feel appreciated and cherished. Respect and recognize his small endeavors for improvement.
And if you’ll talk about a recent thing in his life, it will be more substantial and weighty.
Don’t make him feel awkward
Don’t ever message him about his past relationship, any type of physical or sexual abuse, or did he use drugs, because these types of questions make men uncomfortable and self-conscious. It also depends on the life of a relationship and understanding between both of you.
Talk about something that he isn’t used to hearing
Memorize this fact that subtle things can make or break your bond. So, talk of something new and different. For example, talk about any interest in him that you don’t like or talk to his parents or talk about a habit that is mutual or anything unusual. The human brain is much more receptive to new information as compared to the old one.
To add life to your story, add adjectives in your text messages. Adjectives make your message more interactive and shared. Use of suitable adjectives gives colors to your art.
The key to a good relationship is to be a person who is calm, composed, and soothing. Even if your partner seems very annoyed and negative through his texts or something else, you have to be relaxed at that moment. And when the right time would come, you can complain about his wrong attitude at that particular moment.
Avoid annoying messages like “hey what up” or “hi.” It can make his skin crawl. These types of boring messages create the impression that the sender is a lazy woman and is bored. So, don’t send her boring massages, rather send her captivating messages.
Men want the consideration and interest of all the women.
Life is not too long to beat around the bush when it comes to relationships, love, and dating. Men are weak at analyzing the hints. So being straightforward is preferred and liked. If you had fun on vacation, “that was really great, I’d like to go out again sometime,” message him so that he knows for sure that you’re into him.
Knowledge is still, in fact, power
While we’re all busy in our hectic daily routines and running around in our busy lives, we use the texting software to get to know each other. Empower your partner by sharing as much information and knowledge as you can. We don’t value learning and information factor important in a relationship. Education can improve your understanding of the world and can give you the required exposure of the world which we are often unable to get practically. This means some thoughtful chats can be happening and trending through screens. Sharing knowledge and facts that you both are passionate and fervent about is highly recommended.
Sometimes no response is the best reply.
Now, let’s be clear. Yes, relationships involve maturity, compromises and give and takes. But it has to be two-sided. You should not be playing games with him as relationship requires responsibility. On the other hand, if the man sends you something like “lol ikr,” you might think thrice before responding. The best thing in these types of situation is to remain silent and quiet. Because there is no rule, which says that it will always, be your job to keep every conversation going. Sometimes men have to be taught about your importance in their lives. So, at that moment you should wait for him (sometimes) to break the awkward silence. Let him say start again; let him press the refresh button